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Carolyn on The Doctors

I had best time filming at The Doctors. The doctors were great and the producers told an amazing, inspiring story of a couple, Ken and Deb, who used The Forty Beads Method to help overcome the intimacy challenges they faced since Deb survived breast cancer. The Method has worked wonders for them and nothing (I’m not kidding–NOTHING!) makes me happier than hearing how forty little Beads changed a life.


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12 Responses to Carolyn on The Doctors

  1. My husband and I saw the Dr.’s episode (we were in bed, but only because we were both feeling ill, he ended up having the flu) I ordered the ’40 Beads’ and got them today. I thought they would come with the book so, I ordered the book today. I’m excited to see the positive changes as they unfold. We just celebrated our 12th Anniversary in December. Thank you in advance for sharing this great idea. A very unique idea. I can write more late with a follow up if you’re interested. Johanna ~

    • Carolyn Evans says:

      Hi Johanna! Of course I’m interested and dying to know how you like the book, the Beads, the Method! Please, please keep me posted and let me know if you have any questions! Yrs, ::Carolyn

  2. Keely says:

    I never usually have time to watch the Dr.’s -b/c I’m chasing a 1 1/2 year old around the house while my 5 year old is at school. It was my lucky day and my 1 1/2 year old took a nap and I watched the episode! I ordered the book and bead gift the minute the episode was over.
    I read the book in one night- not moving off the couch (except for a dove bar)…
    I was laughing out loud and just thinking how brilliant this is! I think you hit the nail on the head with everything written- it’s all so relate able. The way you have written the “Method” just feels like you are a girlfriend I’m having a conversation over coffee- I just love everything about it and I haven’t even tried it yet!
    My plan was/is to give my husband the gift for Valentine’s Day- I even bought some red satin bed sheets for an added spark!
    I’m so fired up about it that I hope I can wait til then- we will see. I will keep you posted.
    I know Forty Beads is your current ‘baby’, but I do hope there will be more from you in the future!!!

    • Carolyn Evans says:

      Hi Keely!

      Okay, you just made my day. Thank you so much for telling me all this. I’m so thrilled you loved the book and and are so fired up to get your Bead on! I also love that you feel like we’re friends after reading the book because, you know what? We are. That’s sort of the point of the book–realizing that we’re all connected because all of us women are dealing with some version of the same thing in our marriages at one time or another. I’m like you, when I find something I want to do, I get so geared up, I have a hard time waiting…I’m cracking up how you said you only left the couch for a dove bar–sounds like me! Yay, you! Please, please keep me posted! Sending tons of Bead love your way!


  3. Marcella says:

    Hello 🙂 I downloaded your book via Kindle the minute I saw you on the Drs. I had to know more. I loved it! I loved your book, the idea, the method, etc! Since I finished the book, I have been thinking about the beads, being a fellow beader, wanting to share beading, etc. I am planning my beading to start soon… it is in the works 😉 Even just making the plans for the beading to begin is making me excited. I have zero secrets from my husband… so brewing this new realm has been exciting. We have been together since we were in our early 20’s. We have been married for 13 yrs, but together for almost 20yrs. We have two young boys now, and as any couple knows, 2 young boys is a lot of work. We love each other, we adore each other, we love our children and our family…. but yes… life takes over. I completely understand your book. While reading your book… it was like having a fantastic girlfriend I was talking to and completely related 100%. I am so excited about starting our beading asap. And I am most excited about my husband and how much he is going to LOVE this! I am going to LOVE this too… b/c I do need advance knowledge of his needs/wants and I will prepare my mind and time for him!!! Thank you…

    • Carolyn Evans says:

      Morning Marcella!

      Yay! I’m so excited that you loved the book! I think you’re gonna love Beading EVEN MORE! I wrote this book for you. Because I knew I was not the only one struggling with maintaining a physical connection in my marriage. I love that you feel like we’re friends because I feel the same way. Women supporting women in making their marriages better every day. Please let me know if you get a Bead club going–I LOVE to visit via Skype! And remember, I’m here if you have any questions, need some encouragement or want to share a fun Beadtime story (I LIVE for those, by the way!)

      Thank you, thank you for your sweet words! I’m sending tons of Bead love your way, sister!


  4. Keely says:

    Hey Carolyn,
    How much did you make my day when I went to the mail and found my autographed book plate!!! You would have thought I won some kind of lottery! That was such a terrific personal touch and I want you to know I really appreciate it! 13 more days until my beading journey begins……

    • Carolyn Evans says:

      Awww! I’m so glad! Just want you to know I’m thinking about you and rooting for you–always!!! Gonna be a very good Valentine’s!

  5. Carrie says:

    Hi! I rarely watch The Doctors because I always feel like a hypochondriac when I do…LOL! However, I caught about 20 minutes of it that day and saw your segment. I was immediately interested and thought it sounded like a lot of fun! I have been married for 13 years to my incredible husband, and we have two younger kiddos keeping life pretty busy. I always know that he wants/needs more, but I too often find excuses to avoid it…too tired, haven’t shaved, etc. I like your method because it gives that time to prepare and gear up for it, and makes him feel more in control than he ever was before in that department. So, I bought the book secretly and loved it! I was still apprehensive about trying it out though, wondering if I could keep up with him or if it was even necessary. Of course it’s not necessary, but I wanted to spice things up and make our marriage even better than it already is. So I planned it all out for Valentine’s Day – yesterday. I was so excited, but nervous at the same time. I decided to give it to him after our typical Valentine’s night time together in bed, because I’m always more bold and confident afterwards. He was so funny with a big goofy grin on his face! I love that I surprised him and how excited it made him…and me! Needless to say, he’s already dropped a bead this morning. (I knew he would!) So, thank you for a great idea…and I know he thanks you too! 😉

  6. Keely says:

    Another Valentine’s update for you…. I finally gave the box set to my husband last night and like the previous woman’s husband, he grinned, but I gave it to him before our time together in bed, so I think he was more interested in that. I was worried he wasn’t excited enough and then this morning he beaded me “by proxy”(text) telling me he forgot to drop one in- yay!! Since it’s all new I figured the “by proxy” was ok the first day- I’ll make sure he doesn’t get lazy though!
    Thanks again Carolyn- it’s such a great idea- I know it’s going to be really helpful!

  7. Charlotte says:

    Okay, so does this method work for couples where she is more interested in sex then the guy?

    • Carolyn Evans says:

      Absolutely! As long as both partners are committed to developing a healthy sex life. The Method works the same, but in reverse. When it is the woman with the higher libido, she keeps the Beads and drops them one at a time into her husband’s Beadcatcher.

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