Crack reporter Bonnie Rochman at Time.com posted a piece on Forty Beads yesterday and just like that the Beads are on the move. Watch your step—they’re rolling all over Twitter and bouncing onto other sites like Glamour.com and Babble.com.
I’m grateful that the conversation has finally begun—hell, I’ve been waiting two years for it. I’m so eager for you to get the whole story that I’d pass out the book for free at Starbucks if I could. (It is officially available today where ever books are sold.) Because here’s the thing: a full understanding of The Forty Beads Method is pretty much impossible without reading the book (which let me just say, for the record, is not War and Peace—as Bonnie Rochman said, it’s a quick beach read).
As things bump along the wild world web, bits and pieces about The Forty Beads Method will dribble out into cyberspace and some of you will be drawn to the Beads and others, not so much—that’s cool! But in the interest of us getting off on the right foot, I did want to take this opportunity, at the start of the conversation, to throw a few facts about The Forty Beads Method your way:
1. I am not a sexpert. I have a Master’s in Social Work degree, and have worked as a therapist, but really, I’m just a woman who discovered a method that makes my marriage consistently great. I’ve shared it in hopes that it might do the same for you.
2. I wrote Forty Beads from my perspective, as a woman in a marriage who experienced a lower libido than that of my husband. It’s a perspective shared by many women, but certainly not by all. The Forty Beads Method addresses the disparity that often exists between the male and female libidos and offers a way to close that gap. If that’s not your experience, and you and your husband chug along enjoying a mutually acceptable frequency of sexual exchanges, then that’s great—you don’t need The Forty Beads Method. This is not the book for you. It’s for the rest of us who just need a little help getting there.
The Forty Beads Method is intended for use by all types of couples. It’s not just a hetero thing. A disparity among libidos can and often does exist in same sex couples. My hope that it will offer the same transformational experience for homosexual couples who struggle with conflicting libidos.
3. Though the Forty Beads Method involves rules that must be followed to ensure a couple’s success, couples often get creative with it, figuring out what works best for them—that’s part of the fun! One woman recently told me that after her husband redeemed all his Beads, they decided to switch it up: He held the Beadcatcher and she doled out the Beads. I encourage all Beaders to make the Method their own. (And please tell me and your fellow Beaders all the tweaks that work for you—I love hearing your stories.)
4. I don’t hate sex—quite the opposite. The Beads have shifted my libido and totally changed my perspective on the deed. In case you were wondering. (Which I know you were.)
I’ve been waiting for this chance to talk to you about this crazy idea I came up with that changed my life and is changing the lives of other couples who try it. I’m happy to help you get the ball rolling (pun intended), so if you have any questions about the Forty Beads Method, just let me know! ::Carolyn