I was sitting in my hairdresser’s chair last week. Landis and I keep it real. We both know that I’m a huge pain in the ass, but then, he can be, too, so it works out. Landis and I have been round the bend and back again. Once, when I was very pregnant, he cut my hair way too short (in my estimation) and I went ape shit on him. It was ugly. To make matters worse for him, there was a bride and her mother simultaneously working him pretty good. I blame my bad behavior on hormones, but at some point, Landis had his fill. He pulled his belt from his jeans, handed it over and asked me if I’d like to whip him with it. I declined, but have always regretted that decision since I know I’ll never get that chance again.
Anyway, Landis is a creative, deep thinker. He thinks out of the box—hell I’m not even sure he’s heard about the box. So the other day while I was in his chair, he was asking me questions about The Forty Beads Method and I was telling him how grateful and excited I’ve been by the emails I’ve been getting from couples across the country telling me that the Method is absolutely transforming their marriages. What I’ve been especially struck by is how similarly positive each couples’ experience has been and at the same time, how unique each story is that they tell. I asked Landis what he thought about this and here’s what he said: “The Method is there, it’s in place and that’s great, but when you bring in the humanity—when you bring different peoples’ personalities into it, that’s when the magic happens.”
It’s so true. Women are thanking me for writing this book, and I so appreciate the lovely feedback, but to all of you who are thanking me: It’s you. All of it is you. You are the ones transforming your marriages one Bead at a time. Yay, you! And please—keep on keeping me posted! ::Carolyn